Father’s Day musings

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Our pride and joy.

Insights, understandings, recollections, and yet-to-be-answered questions I’ve gathered along the way since becoming a father on August 1, 1991—and the nine months prior to that.

  • Why is it that what irritated me most about my kids as a young father are some of the things I miss and treasure most about their childhoods now?
  • Each of my children has a bond with their mother that I will never understand or achieve. This used to bother me as a young father, but I’ve since come to relish the fact.
  • The longer I’m a father, the more I understand how God must feel about His children.
  • Grandparenting is God’s do-over gift to parents.
  • Why is it that the mistakes I’ve made as a father are some of the first things that come to mind when I remember my kids’ childhoods?
  • If I could do it over, I’d appreciate every minute of every day that our kids lived in our home.
  • With a 15-year-old still at home, it’s not too late to put the previous musing into action.
  • A parent’s anxiousness and concern about a child doesn’t disappear once that child moves out. It increases.
  • My personal weaknesses become painfully evident when I see them in my children.
  • One of the best tools for overcoming my personal weaknesses is seeing them in my children.
  • A listening ear is one of the most powerful parenting tools available.
  • God’s patience with His children far outweighs my patience with mine, but I think I understand on a microscopic level how He must feel when we make bad choices.
  • Frequent giggling should be encouraged, not squashed.
  • A minute late isn’t really worth a harsh punishment.
  • “Cats in the Cradle” was written to torment fathers with sons.
  • SportsCenter isn’t as fun to watch alone.
  • Hair pretties in my hair at the hands of my little girl were some of my most manly moments.
  • My two-year-old’s love for my new haircut was the best trip I’ve ever taken to the barbershop.
  • Tom Petty’s greatest hits with my enthralled and content toddler snuggled on my lap is the best music-listening experience I’ve ever had.
  • “Lion King” and “Aladdin” singalongs with my little boy in my 1987 Toyota pickup still echo in my mind and heart.
  • If I had a dollar for every time I’ve repeated a phrase from each of our kids’ childhoods, I’d be very wealthy.
  • A daughter’s love is fragile and should be handled with extreme care.
  • A son’s love is fragile and should be handled with extreme care.
  • A silent, brooding teenager is screaming to be heard, understood, and loved.
  • If I could see my children for who they were before coming to earth, I’d treat them with a lot more respect—especially when they were young children.
  • The hugs and snuggles that are shared so freely when they’re little should be cherished.
  • I shouldn’t have taken myself so seriously when my kids were young. “Because I said so” has never been a good reason.
  • My kids really are just like their mother—and that’s a great thing.
  • Dad doesn’t really know best, but Mom usually does.
  • One of the most beautiful sounds in this life is the prayer of a mother for her children.

May your parenting path be filled with love, goodness, and growth. Happy Father’s Day to all of my fellow dads!

What are some of the realizations and recollections you’ve gained since becoming a parent?

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